I admit to being slightly fascinated by this particular component of things. 

What is sub-drop? 

I mean, I think I can reason out what it is on a physiological level. It looks similar to a depression following a large high. An addict would experience this if they’ve dosed with a drug; large chemical rush, greater than the body is used to, followed by a severe drop in that chemical rush, leading to an under compensation by the body and a mental/physical/emotional drop. 

That’s just my professional opinion/obversation. Figured I’d better do at least 2 seconds of research. 

I found a few websites that take the time to discuss it, but here’s one that seemed clear:

Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session.  Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense side of Sub Drop that gets very little attention because for each person it is different and describing how to recover can take many forms.

If not cared for, you could go into depression just from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days. You may just want to sleep it off. These are the more extreme forms of Drop. Some people recover in a matter of hours, but others could exhibit signs of Sub Drop for weeks after an intense session.

So, similar to what I said, eh?

If you’re an addict, you’d have to chase your next high to make it better. If you’re into BDSM in some fashion, you require someone to provide the emotional/mental/physical support to keep you level. Many people require TLC or aftercare in whatever form that takes for you.

Let’s talk personal experience though…

As discussed before I haven’t experienced anything outside of feeling floaty and druggy after a good spanking, even with the cane. Being really sleepy and needing a nap is about as spacey as I’ve been. Oh, I have sounded slow or slurred. I haven’t had a drop as a result of impact play. I was on my way to writing this off as something I know nothing about until I realized I’ve experienced similar emotional depression but after sex. 

Oh sex will drop me fast. I can point to posts where I’ve fallen apart after a one night stand or gotten extremely emotional after sex to the point of depression hours or days later. Guilt and confusion also get me. It takes a long time for me to recover. A spanking has never made me feel that way. 

It’s something I’ve actually discussed following a spanking. How good I feel and remain. How I don’t have the mental crisis that usually accompanies something this intense. I think the reason is I don’t have the emotional investment like I would if I was having sex with someone. 

Spanking is intimate and I am vulnerable, but my emotions take 5. I’m not thinking about what I’m engaging in, I’m letting the pain do its cleansing work. Spanking is therapy for me so there’s no need for additional care. 

Sex on the other had can wreck me. I’ve always been the type that requires a deep emotional connection for something so intimate. I believe firmly in a connecting of spirits when you have sex so I’ve also struggled with anything casual. It’s part of why I don’t like kissing. 

Anyone want to weigh in on it? 


No ass on this one, but isn’t it cute?? 


  1. John Brownstone

    Kayla used to experience sub-drop on occasion. More so when we were long distance. It would hit her after a visit from me when we had played hard. Since being together we do play hard but I have not noticed her having any sub-drop. She may be able to chime in with more info.

    Yes, the outfit is cute.

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      1. John Brownstone

        The emotional connection could very well have a big impact. A Dom and their sub tend to have a very deep emotional bond, during a scene it can be even more intense…break that bond suddenly and it could take a toll

  2. Kayla Lords

    Good gawd woman, you are gorgeous!

    Sub-drop, like subspace, has been different for me. The only correlation I can make is to the way PMS sometimes feels. Some drop was physical – aches, pains, headaches (especially) and some was emotional – crying, sad feelings, hopelessness, and irrational aggravation and anger. And, sadly, sometimes it was a combo. For me, because it’s different for everyone, I’m sure, it happened when I couldn’t have sustained physical contact after the play. So yes, during our LDR, drop happened more often, and was most severe if we played hard right before we separated. Since we’ve moved in together, I only think I’ve felt it once or twice and it’s been after a really long, hard session – usually at the club where we can really let go. My hypothesis is the lack of drop is because I can reach out and touch him for reassurance whenever I want – whereas before I couldn’t. But that’s just me.

  3. Beatnik du Jour

    I don’t think i can contribute much to your discussion as it stands, but I do know what you mean about the sex and have wondered similar things about myself.

    …and you look fantastic!

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      Cara Thereon

      Hey stranger. 😉

      I think sex requires a lot of emotional involvement. That can be hard if you’re already overly emotional. It can devastate me… It has in the past.

  4. My Sir's Mynx

    I have experienced many sub drops as Sir does so much traveling during the week, and we tend to play hard on the weekends, then he leaves often first thing Monday Mornings. So down I go…. But most of mine is emotional. I also expirence an emotional drop when I part from my best friend/occasional play partner, my sweet Bo Peep. To what you said Cara….Emotional connections being severed too quickly, this is exactly what happends for me with Peep. I litterily fall apart every time I have to say goodbye to my dear friend. And I’m down for days. While what I feel with Peep might not be classified as Sub drop, I still feel it’s a form of drop.
    Btw Miss Cara, your rockin it girl!

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  5. Caitlyn McConnell

    I, too, experience different types of drops. If I’m in dire need of hard play, typically when I’m overwhelmed with life, I need some physical reassurance right afterwards. Sometimes a close, snuggly spooning is enough. But when we play long and hard just for fun, and when lots of intense orgasms are had, I tend to be cranky and short tempered the next morning. It took me a long time to recognize this as sub drop, but I think that’s exactly what it is. What works for me is a quick fuck in the morning. Not only does it put a smile on my face, but it increases hormone release, particularly oxytocin, which straighten out my brain. Just my .02 pretty girl. Xoxo

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  6. 'Tis

    the few times I experienced a drop, I felt clingy, yet a bit alone, lethargic, sad to the point I wanted to withdraw but I didn’t want to be allowed to do so. It was all very strange with conflicting emotions going on. I think the main thing was that I just needed reassurance that all was going to be okay and I needed that to be a consistent message.

    and I’m not sure cute is quite the right word for how sexy you are. 🙂

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