I’m very good at convincing myself I don’t need touch. Too good, actually. Long periods without it and I stop thinking about it. Same as I do with sex. I block it out so I don’t crave it even if it’s what I need.
The other bad thing is I’ve been touched when I haven’t wanted to be touched. Whether it’s an unwanted hug or sexual assault, I’ve had people’s hands on me without permission more than once. It means I have periods where touch has been uncomfortable/unbearable.
It’s taken me a while to relax and realize that I need touch. Hugs, caresses, a hand to hold. I’m still working through my negative reaction to touch and my desire to be held. Being with someone helps that, but these things take time.
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They take time indeed. But you’ll get there, maybe with the gentle guidance from your loving Daddy.
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I think so. I think so
I find it difficult when people don’t understand personal space and get so close they are almost touching me and I am thinking – Whoooa – i am here – back off …
‘I’m very good at convincing myself I don’t need touch. Too good, actually. Long periods without it and I stop thinking about it. Same as I do with sex. I block it out so I don’t crave it even if it’s what I need.’
Ah, yes – I recognise this a lot, but I agree with you – we all need touch and we can only avoid that fact for so long.