What to wear to a spanking

I wasn’t sure whether I’d talk about this tonight, but I need to decompress.

If you remember a few posts back, I talked about my coffee meeting with a guy I started talking to on Fetlife. He was nice, interesting, not creepy, and offered to meet up to talk about the possibility of introducing me to spanking. After about 2 weeks of attempting to coordinate our schedules, we arranged to meet up at his apartment today.

Nervous doesn’t cover how I felt, but I set up the necessary safety mechanisms and went over.

It was so good. I mean, he put me at ease, let me talk about what I wanted, made me a cup of tea, let me talk some more, and then we established a safe word just in case. I asked him to blindfold me because that felt safe and comfortable. Bless him, he didn’t think my request was weird.

I gathered up my courage, let him lead me back to his bedroom, and laid across his lap. He blindfolded me and started slow and easy, then increasingly hard. I was wiggling at the end and darn near panting. He started over my leggings and then pulled my pants down to get at my naked bottom. I was so into it I didn’t even think to care about him staring at my stretch marks.

How exactly do you describe an erotic spanking? I’ve written stories about it, but have never experienced one as an adult. I haven’t been spanked since I was 10, but this was vastly different.

This was me bracing, feeling the sting, feeling his arm across my back, his hand smoothing over my skin, and letting the burn flow through me. This was the release of endorphins that morphed the pain into something different. This was him stopping to check on me and me wanting him to continue.

It felt good, so so good. I wanted to curl up and go to sleep after I was so swamped with chemicals. I felt fuzzy and drugged, and I wanted to stay on his lap for the rest of the day.

But I got up, stumbled into the living room, and let him make me another cup of tea. We talked about it, about how much I liked it and wanted to do it again, and once I could function I left. I’ve been floating all day barely able to think straight.

My butt is sore though the redness is gone I believe (correction: just checked and 9 hours later both cheeks are still quite red. I’m anticipating a bruise even though it doesn’t hurt real bad). I can’t help touching it and thinking about doing it again. It was exactly like I hoped.

Not complicated, but I want more desperately. From him. Of course I already asked when we could meet again. I’ll be good and wait 2 weeks before I give in.

One thing checked off my list. Maybe my other piercing on Saturday to check off I hope.

Making progress.

What does one wear? I wore leggings and a tank with a dressy shirt over. I have a great love of ruffled panties so I wore my blue ones with white polka dots. Foolish me forgot to double-check that my underwear weren’t visible so I left without looking. Realized after I was out so I took my underwear off before I met him. Definitely went a large part of the day sans panties. A weird feeling for sure.

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  1. jayne

    I love that you ventured! I would automatically think sex was involved but I guess that is predetermined in your conversations. Oh MY!!!!! That sounds exciting! Congrats on it being a good thing – I would say send a link to your “nemesis” but she’d blab just to try and get you in trouble so, it wouldn’t be a good thing. I’m happy for you. Jayne

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      1. jayne

        I guess that’s a good sign then because he must have known – realized that he could have had you. Oh – so “casual” means no sex? Could you have “ordered a spanking and sex”?

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            Cara Thereon

            He was the one who offered it on a friendly basis. I like this better because there’s no pressure for anything else, but we both are satisfied at the end.

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  2. TemptingSweets99

    Glad you had a good experience. I understand spankings can become addictive. 😉 Wishing you many more happy spankings! 😉

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  3. The Reclining Gentleman

    It’s great that you are being proactive in your life at the moment. i’m really pleased for you being brave enough to give this a try and i’m even pleaseder that it was everything you had hoped!

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  4. Bel Anderson

    Oh my goodness, respect to you. What a leap to take! I have never stopped to think what one would wear to a spanking – if I knew a spanking was coming my way I’d be running in the other direction, LOL! In that case, probably running wear and trainers 😉

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    1. hispetitelle

      Oh….you wear a short skirt and those frilly panties to a spanking. If yiu leave without those panties make sure it’s not a windy day or throw an extra pair in your bag.

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      Cara Thereon

      I’m not sure I’d call it guts. It was more like a need to finally know. He contacted me, seemed sane, and I wanted to do it. Definitely want more though I’m not sure I’ll talk him into more than once every other week.

  5. Nick

    I’m so pleased for you that you arranged it and went through with it:-)
    I hope this guy can provide you a regular spanking service and maybe other things, too:-) He does sound like somebody not taking advantage of you, not pushing too hard, even though you were blissed out over his knee.

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      Cara Thereon

      I was sprawled across the poor man’s lap like a lump. I was totally useless after that and wanted to cuddle, but he had other places to be. I’m considering asking him to let me snuggle him next time.

  6. Spider42

    There’s few things like hands-on experience to enhance the perspective of a writer I’d wager so maybe this will bring a new element to future works. 🙂
    Kudos on venturing into something out of the norm and congrats, glad it went well.
    Cheers!

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  7. Mark Davis

    Okay, sexual spanking is definitely something that I enjoy doing to a woman, just as long as she’s genuinely into it, and she also isn’t so hardcore, that she wants me to give her lots of ugly welts and bruises. Because I can’t take it that far, and what I really do get off on, results in a pair of cheeks that look a bright red sunburned color, instead of severely beaten. (no judgement for folks who enjoy the extremes – it’s just not me)

    I’m happy for you that you found a man who seems like an ideal partner for your spanking experience. 🙂

    Hope you don’t mind me putting a link here, and if so, just delete it and no hard feelings. But this links to a photo that I took around 12 years ago, that still makes me hot every time I see it. http://wp.me/a2RGjs-xi

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      Cara Thereon

      I’m on my way home from work and riding public transit so I’ll check out that link in a bit.

      Obviously, I loved it. Not the being bruised part, but I like that there is some as a reminder. I don’t think I’ll ever be into hard core spankings though I’ll never say never to anything at all.

      He’s just a friend… If you can call having someone spank you friendly. I wouldn’t mind finding someone to add a different element to it, but I’ll take what I can get at this point. It’s too good to complain

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  9. Dawn Rinken

    This was awesome! First of all, as a writer, I’m proud of you for going out and living what you write, even though you were nervous, if for no other reason than to get that firsthand experience in. Your descriptors were excellent, and I was right there with you! (Even though I’m not sure I’d like being spanked; never tried it.) Secondly, I’m proud of you, as a woman, that you went out and explored! (I’m glad it was safe for you, too — I suppose there’s always a risk, and I’m glad this paid off.) You go, girl! Question: you’ve done an awesome job telling us how turned-on YOU were. But what about HIM? Was he interested in more…? (Sorry if that’s more than you want to divulge.)

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      Cara Thereon

      I loved it and am really jonesing for another, but it was friendly. Honestly, I think he was just being nice. He isn’t interested in me in that way at all. You could’ve blown me over with a breath, but he was as cool as a cucumber after. He gave me tea, a hug, and sent me on my way.

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